I've been up and down, back and forth recently. Hearts a little heavier again. Carly Simon's beautiful voice sung these words to me during a particularly low moment, "so don't mind if I fall apart, there's more room in a broken heart". I needed those words.
So rarely does one hear a 'broken heart' being talked of as a positive thing. When in fact, nothing in this life has not the potential for goodness. So, what if we were to see heartbreak as an incredible chance for growth? The granting of an opening up to a new magnified level of appreciation and feeling?
Choosing good to come from heartbreak does not, of course, vanish the hurt... but it has the ability to make the suffering one experiences lighter, for one knows they are gaining from it.
Before it is broken, a heart feels complete and wholesome. It is much more restrictive of what it allows inside... much more decisive and controlled. Though its capacity is still huge, you can regulate what infiltrates your heart, the love you give and receive, much easier.
A broken heart is a total life transformation.
The immediate connotations we make when we think of 'to break' are naturally bad things. To break apart... to break down... but how about to break open? When a heart breaks, it breaks open.
Openness.
When you find your heart is broken, the channels that flow into and out of it become all of a sudden vastly exposed, for your heart is more open and vulnerable than ever.
In our heartbreak, we can choose to respond in two ways.
One way, the most common, is to respond to this hurt by putting an extra guard up. To defend your vulnerable hurt against all that it is newly exposed to. To cling desperately to these opened, exposed, wounded parts and to try protect what you feel you have left. This is a response of fear. This person feels the pain that the brokenness has created and considers the heartbreak to be destructive.
They in turn let it become damaging.
So hurt are they that they see all the world to be as vultures circling them like scraps. They no longer see kindness and beauty.
They allow this experience of brokenness to become one of fending off, fighting against, clinging onto, grasping at... desperate attempts to somehow return their heart to what is had once been.
These are useless and unnecessary attempts. You will struggle continuously to regain what you had because you have, in fact, lost nothing.
Heartbreak is not the result of someone taking away from you... be it your joy, peace or innocence... heartbreak is a process of re-shaping and alteration.
Nothing has been lost and there is nothing you can try to 'get back'.
Let's face it, relationships change us, we know that is part of the deal before we enter them, so be prepared to feel greatly changed when their impact upon you is as strong as heartbreak.
Those who recognise their brokenness and see their vulnerability as an okay thing, not something to fear, respond through love.
They come to embrace this broken openness. They take advantage of this easier heart flow. They succumb to their vulnerability. And what flows out is love, and flows gratitude, honesty, kindness, confusion, sadness even... all feelings that our hearts contain find themselves free to be carried by this pure and unhindered flow.
A broken heart is the perfect vessel for the pouring out of and into, for it is fully open.
All that the heart is now so freely pouring out, will in turn, flow back. Open hearts act this way.
Those who turn their vulnerabilities into openness experience such greater connection in life. A river of a flow exists between open hearts.
So know that your hurt can help you. It is giving you this opportunity to be more ready to gain than ever before
There truly is more room in a broken heart, a heart that has broke open.
- Love from Bambi x
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So rarely does one hear a 'broken heart' being talked of as a positive thing. When in fact, nothing in this life has not the potential for goodness. So, what if we were to see heartbreak as an incredible chance for growth? The granting of an opening up to a new magnified level of appreciation and feeling?
Choosing good to come from heartbreak does not, of course, vanish the hurt... but it has the ability to make the suffering one experiences lighter, for one knows they are gaining from it.
Before it is broken, a heart feels complete and wholesome. It is much more restrictive of what it allows inside... much more decisive and controlled. Though its capacity is still huge, you can regulate what infiltrates your heart, the love you give and receive, much easier.
A broken heart is a total life transformation.
The immediate connotations we make when we think of 'to break' are naturally bad things. To break apart... to break down... but how about to break open? When a heart breaks, it breaks open.
When you find your heart is broken, the channels that flow into and out of it become all of a sudden vastly exposed, for your heart is more open and vulnerable than ever.
In our heartbreak, we can choose to respond in two ways.
One way, the most common, is to respond to this hurt by putting an extra guard up. To defend your vulnerable hurt against all that it is newly exposed to. To cling desperately to these opened, exposed, wounded parts and to try protect what you feel you have left. This is a response of fear. This person feels the pain that the brokenness has created and considers the heartbreak to be destructive.
They in turn let it become damaging.
They allow this experience of brokenness to become one of fending off, fighting against, clinging onto, grasping at... desperate attempts to somehow return their heart to what is had once been.
These are useless and unnecessary attempts. You will struggle continuously to regain what you had because you have, in fact, lost nothing.
Heartbreak is not the result of someone taking away from you... be it your joy, peace or innocence... heartbreak is a process of re-shaping and alteration.
Nothing has been lost and there is nothing you can try to 'get back'.
Let's face it, relationships change us, we know that is part of the deal before we enter them, so be prepared to feel greatly changed when their impact upon you is as strong as heartbreak.
Those who recognise their brokenness and see their vulnerability as an okay thing, not something to fear, respond through love.
They come to embrace this broken openness. They take advantage of this easier heart flow. They succumb to their vulnerability. And what flows out is love, and flows gratitude, honesty, kindness, confusion, sadness even... all feelings that our hearts contain find themselves free to be carried by this pure and unhindered flow.
A broken heart is the perfect vessel for the pouring out of and into, for it is fully open.
All that the heart is now so freely pouring out, will in turn, flow back. Open hearts act this way.
Those who turn their vulnerabilities into openness experience such greater connection in life. A river of a flow exists between open hearts.
So know that your hurt can help you. It is giving you this opportunity to be more ready to gain than ever before
There truly is more room in a broken heart, a heart that has broke open.
- Love from Bambi x
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