We have manipulated love so much.
We have turned it into some kind of ownership, where we believe that when we love and are loved in return, we must give a name to this. We feel something and we want something to show for it, to create something that our mind's can comprehend.
You cannot grasp love.
Love is a feeling too grand to be interpreted, summarised or encapsulated. Any attempt to do so is to immediately limit it.
Yet we so readily turn the love we feel into a partnership that we are committed to and expect commitment from. Consistent, long-term, even indefinite commitment.
But love is free.
We even tell ourselves that it is free - we know it is - that we would never dream of being caged or of caging another... but the very idea of perceiving love as a form of greater or lesser ownership of another, and expecting their commitment in return, is not allowing love its full freedom.
We are trying to define love. To explain it. Love exceeds our small concept of relationship.
People find themselves struggling and striving for their love. Sacrificing themselves for their love. It appears as though we place such importance in our relationship with this significant other, that we pay our relationship with our own life less attention and care.
You ought to follow your desires in life. To go where you want, to take the opportunities so appealing to you, the experiences that you crave. Your first love in life is to yourself and it is therefore betraying love to sacrifice your desires for the sake of another.
Perhaps we have forgotten the very reason we are with someone?
We personify our love. We believe our love is the person that is stirring it within us... but they are not love. They are the channel that love, the pure feeling itself, is using to pass through to you. So even when that person ceases to be that channel, you have not lost love. Love chooses many channels and you are one too.
There is a chance that love may channel through one person all of your life. The likelihood however, because of Love's free nature, is it will change its path.
People are so different. This is a good thing. We have such vastly differing wants and desires, hopes and dreams. There are times where we share the same wants and dreams as others. It is at these times when love can flow naturally between the two. In this instance, people may choose to be in a relationship together, to give their love a name so that they, and perhaps more importantly, others, can comprehend what they are experiencing. And as long as both people harbour the same pursuits, or at least their differing pursuits are fitting of each others, their love is still flowing freely.
But people's wants and aspirations do change.
When thoughts of sacrificing genuine, good and natural desires appear, this is not how love was intended. Now, for love to flow, it must be stimulated, worked at, forced even. This relationship becomes one of commitment and no longer of simply being.
It is as if we believe our relationship IS love. When in reality, we have become more concerned with our relationship and we no longer listen to love.
Many sacrifices are made in the name of love. Yet love does not ask for sacrifice. People ask for sacrifices to be made.
Love is not a contract but a feeling to be shared freely between two people both knowing that love can never be tied down.
Yet people put aside their desire for new experience in order to maintain their love, even though love will flow with us along new life paths, we are so fixed on our love in another.
We are scared to lose our love, but there is no loss in love. There is only changing flows and transitions.
Love is a feeling, not a person.
You open your heart to let love flow through, this should not be mistaken for giving your heart away.
When people feel they've lost their heart, or left it behind with some special someone, they've simply lost touch with themselves and feel so lacking and numb that they are unaware of their own heart. It is there still. Your heart is forever loyal to you, so be loyal to it in return.
Learn to listen to love once again. Learn to be close to love itself, and then, no matter how often the channels love chooses may change, you will feel love close to you always.
So love openly, wildly, wholeheartedly, but most importantly, love freely.
Know that your love may wander, that the channel for your love can change. Know that this is Love's nature and no bad thing. Love goes beyond relationship and beyond a person, for these are but the tools and channels that love possesses.
Let your love for yourself be the love you nurture most. Be true to what your love in life is telling you to follow and chase. Out of all the hearts in this world, yours is the only one you will truly keep forever so invest in it fiercely. Let your love be free and let it be yours so you will one day look back at your life knowing you were loyal and faithful to your one true first love, yourself.
Allow love its freedom and it will breeze through your heart like an open window. And it is true, for some, love may last only a short sweet while, and for others their love will be so entwined it can last a lifetime. But all love shared, no matter how long for, is the very same love.
- Love from Bambi x
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Photo credit: Diana Llorens Vicente
We have turned it into some kind of ownership, where we believe that when we love and are loved in return, we must give a name to this. We feel something and we want something to show for it, to create something that our mind's can comprehend.
You cannot grasp love.
Love is a feeling too grand to be interpreted, summarised or encapsulated. Any attempt to do so is to immediately limit it.
Yet we so readily turn the love we feel into a partnership that we are committed to and expect commitment from. Consistent, long-term, even indefinite commitment.
But love is free.
We even tell ourselves that it is free - we know it is - that we would never dream of being caged or of caging another... but the very idea of perceiving love as a form of greater or lesser ownership of another, and expecting their commitment in return, is not allowing love its full freedom.
We are trying to define love. To explain it. Love exceeds our small concept of relationship.
People find themselves struggling and striving for their love. Sacrificing themselves for their love. It appears as though we place such importance in our relationship with this significant other, that we pay our relationship with our own life less attention and care.
You ought to follow your desires in life. To go where you want, to take the opportunities so appealing to you, the experiences that you crave. Your first love in life is to yourself and it is therefore betraying love to sacrifice your desires for the sake of another.
Perhaps we have forgotten the very reason we are with someone?
We personify our love. We believe our love is the person that is stirring it within us... but they are not love. They are the channel that love, the pure feeling itself, is using to pass through to you. So even when that person ceases to be that channel, you have not lost love. Love chooses many channels and you are one too.
There is a chance that love may channel through one person all of your life. The likelihood however, because of Love's free nature, is it will change its path.
People are so different. This is a good thing. We have such vastly differing wants and desires, hopes and dreams. There are times where we share the same wants and dreams as others. It is at these times when love can flow naturally between the two. In this instance, people may choose to be in a relationship together, to give their love a name so that they, and perhaps more importantly, others, can comprehend what they are experiencing. And as long as both people harbour the same pursuits, or at least their differing pursuits are fitting of each others, their love is still flowing freely.
But people's wants and aspirations do change.
When thoughts of sacrificing genuine, good and natural desires appear, this is not how love was intended. Now, for love to flow, it must be stimulated, worked at, forced even. This relationship becomes one of commitment and no longer of simply being.
It is as if we believe our relationship IS love. When in reality, we have become more concerned with our relationship and we no longer listen to love.
Many sacrifices are made in the name of love. Yet love does not ask for sacrifice. People ask for sacrifices to be made.
Love is not a contract but a feeling to be shared freely between two people both knowing that love can never be tied down.
Yet people put aside their desire for new experience in order to maintain their love, even though love will flow with us along new life paths, we are so fixed on our love in another.
We are scared to lose our love, but there is no loss in love. There is only changing flows and transitions.
Love is a feeling, not a person.
You open your heart to let love flow through, this should not be mistaken for giving your heart away.
When people feel they've lost their heart, or left it behind with some special someone, they've simply lost touch with themselves and feel so lacking and numb that they are unaware of their own heart. It is there still. Your heart is forever loyal to you, so be loyal to it in return.
Learn to listen to love once again. Learn to be close to love itself, and then, no matter how often the channels love chooses may change, you will feel love close to you always.
So love openly, wildly, wholeheartedly, but most importantly, love freely.
Know that your love may wander, that the channel for your love can change. Know that this is Love's nature and no bad thing. Love goes beyond relationship and beyond a person, for these are but the tools and channels that love possesses.
Let your love for yourself be the love you nurture most. Be true to what your love in life is telling you to follow and chase. Out of all the hearts in this world, yours is the only one you will truly keep forever so invest in it fiercely. Let your love be free and let it be yours so you will one day look back at your life knowing you were loyal and faithful to your one true first love, yourself.
Allow love its freedom and it will breeze through your heart like an open window. And it is true, for some, love may last only a short sweet while, and for others their love will be so entwined it can last a lifetime. But all love shared, no matter how long for, is the very same love.
- Love from Bambi x
FOLLOW ME ON FACEBOOK: CLICK HERE!
Photo credit: Diana Llorens Vicente
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