Grudges.

They are ugly to wear and are of absolutely no benefit to your life. They do you no good thing.

To hold a grudge is ultimately to foster a constant illness inside of you, a negativity. Your life can never be one of true liberation and joy if you allow this darkness a permanent inhabitance within you. Even in moments when you are not immediately entertaining the feeling, you possess it. It is a feature in your life.

Whatever wrong another's done to you, leading you to feel this “chip on your shoulder”, it is the most counter-productive and self destructive thing to allow their wrong to stumble you. And yes, it is up to you whether you allow it to effect you or not.

This is where the power of perspective is key.

You and your ultimate inner peace is the single most important thing in your life.

To have ill feeling towards someone is to disturb that peace. 

This grudge you hold can feel totally justifiable, and depending on your perspective, it is justifiable.

However, when you believe this, you might also believe that to let the grudge go is a sign of weakness, of not 'standing up for oneself'.

...but if that is the case, ask yourself, what is this 'self' you stand up for? A self that harbours such feelings that produce frustration towards a person, anger, bitterness and hurt.

None of these are feelings belonging to a person at total peace with themselves because such feelings do not produce peace and contentment.

So, if this 'self' you wish to stand up for, is in fact, a self that is peaceful, joyful and contented, then you will have no desire to entertain such a thing as a grudge.

This self knows that it is the letting go of negative outside influences and greater inner focus that create the stability that is so fruitful for their life.

This self is endlessly more strong than the self that succumbs to negativity and gives others control over their peace. They accept such a hindrance to their own happiness.

This hindrance cannot enhance you, build you or nourish you.

This you should avoid.

Decide to live for yourself. Decide to be at peace in this life. We have but only a short time to enjoy it, do not limit your own capacity for joy.

The moving away from what is negative in your life naturally frees space for that which is positive.

You at this very moment are in full control of the amount of positivity and negativity you have in your life. Choose positivity, you have the power to.

What others may call a 'shame', a 'disaster' or a 'hardship', put purpose and meaning to it, create good that can come from it.

Of course, you are not immune to being hurt, but you have the capability to let that hurt become something that makes you realise your strength in life and your ultimate loyalty to yourself. You show yourself the love you deserve by choosing not to let the actions of others damage you, by this you come to live a wholesome life without regrets or limitations on joy.

Amend your past before you concern yourself with your future.

It is the past that builds, shapes and creates you after all. So if any negativity toward a person, place or thing still remains in your past, change it.

Change it so that your past no longer holds anything undesirable.

And now may it provide you with the perfect clean slate, the good and pure foundation to build your future upon.

- Love from Bambi x


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