Gain.

I was in love. I am in love.

Why do we see loss as a negative thing?
Loss means gain. Loss is gain and gain is loss. This is one of life's many balances. You do not have one without the other. They are one and the same.

So.
Should we then every time we gain, fear loss? No, no, no.
Because loss will soon enough lead to new gaining. It always does.

Holding tight to temporary gains will only make the loss harder, not avoid it, and then the eventual new gain will not be so gratefully and readily received because one is still holding tight to ones past.

Often we are so desperately holding on to past losses, we do not even realise the new gains presented to us! So much are we mourning over the past, we close ourselves from the new opportunities, friendships, and most commonly, new loves, that are ours for the taking - for the experiencing!

It was good. It was right. It was even perfect perhaps.
But it was for then. He was for that time.

If we only look at this natural process of 'loss and gain, and gain and loss' as a positive and progressive thing in life, we can only reap its benefits. Life's benefits as pure as they were intended.

The loss of loves, friendships,  wealth, lives, the loss of anything need not threaten us.
Naturally, we will grieve, please do grieve. But it is such a natural and intrinsic thing in life - to lose - that you will find we are more than capable of processing it.

It is our choice how we allow something to affect us long-term. How we can either grow from something or let it restrict us.

I love him still. My memories with him. But I do not miss him in sorrow, instead I am eternally thankful for the time life gave me with him.
I am thankful for my loss, for only now am I once more fully open to gain from life again.

To gain new experiences, new personality, new approaches, new freedoms, new loves.

- Love from Bambi x


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